Children see

Make your influence positive!

One of the principles to practice in Axness´book Parenting for peace is EXAMPLE:

Be a good parent! Seek and cultivate your benevolence, inner nobility and knowing authority. Find the queen or king in you. According to Axness a child needs to sense a dignity about her parents and their attitude toward parenting (and thus, to her).

"Children taker our cues about how to treat themselves, others and the environment -with compassionate care or mindless disregard. They absorb the inner and outer atmosphere we create." Axness 2012:299

Am I worthy of my child´s unquestioning imitation?

Steiner, founder of Waldorf education said that the young child is an eye, taking in everything, registering everything, without analysis. They don´t so much hear our words, but pick up everything else. And they imitate everything (Axness 2012:297).

We are all good at something. Whatever it is that is a source of confidence for you, show it to your child! Allow him or her to see a deep engagement and passion in what you do and learn from your example.

"Kids pick up and sense what is far beyond the things we yammer at them. they pick up the truth that lies beneath, behind and before our words" Axness (2012:298).

The quality of every gesture percolates into the psyche of our child points Axness, they see the world through our eyes. What kind of world are we showing them?